If you’ve never watched 500 Days of Summer then you have more than likely been living under a rock for the past six years. You also need to get down to your local HMV (where they still exist), buy a copy of the DVD and watch it. Seriously, you do. Even for those of you that have never watched it because you think it’s another cheesy romantic comedy, where boy meets girl, they fall in love, overcome an obstacle in their relationship, but they eventually end up together and happily live ever after, it’s a must watch film. If anything, a lot can be learnt from 500 Days of Summer when it comes to love and relationships.
The love story in 500 Days of Summer isn’t the average storyline that I just described to you in the last paragraph. It’s an honest representation of what love is like and how relationships sometimes end up working out. Although in the film the male protagonist, Tom, is the one who has his feelings meddled with, and ultimately his heart broken, the situation can go for both men and women in real life.
As much as I love a bit of romance, whether it’s in a film or in the pages of a book, some representations are ever so slightly over exaggerated and remain very much in the fantasy world. Above anything else, that is what attracts me most to 500 Days of Summer.
All romantics out there like myself love the idea of being swept off their feet and finding the man or woman of their dreams, ultimately finding everything they’ve ever wanted and more. Numerous novels and films put forward this idea that it happens oh so easily. You meet someone by chance, there’s instant chemistry, mutual attraction. As already described a small obstacle gets in the way between these two people coming together, but before you know it and before the credits roll, the obstacle has been overcome, and the pair you have been rooting for finally end up together, fall madly in love and live happily ever after. 500 Days of Summer shows a somewhat more realistic representation. In love and relationships, it doesn’t always end up how you or the other person want it to. In Summer’s own words, “relationships are messy and peoples feelings get hurt”.
In life, you don’t always end up being with the person you think you’re going to be with. No matter how long you’ve liked the person, how long they’ve liked you for, or, if you’re in a relationship, how long you’ve been together, sometimes things don’t work out how you expect them to. If the person you’re with or that you have feelings for isn’t the right person, then life or fate will intervene.
Just as Tom found in the film, what you think is right isn’t always as right as you first think. Sometimes things don’t work out the way you would like them to, and that is more often than not due to wrong timing or just because things weren’t meant to be. The one thing that I’ve learnt the most from 500 Days of Summer, and perhaps the most important thing that anyone can learn from the film, is that no matter how badly relationships end, and no matter how hurt you get, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Someone better is always waiting for you just round the corner.
The funny thing is that when I started writing this post around a month ago, I was still hurting and getting over a situation that I found myself in nearly four months ago. Since then, I’ve met someone, and without giving too much away, I’ve never been happier in my whole life so far. It just goes to show that just because things don’t work with one person, just because your feelings and emotions are temporarily damaged, it doesn’t mean that there’s no hope of you ever meeting anyone and getting everything you’ve ever dreamed of. Just as Tom finds at the end of 500 Days of Summer, someone better is always waiting to come along when you least expect it.